When you meet the right one, it might not be love at first sight. You might not feel sparks. You might not have an instant longing, an obvious chemistry. You might be completely oblivious to how important the person in front of you is going to become down the line. You might not realize you’ve just stumbled across your forever person.
When you meet the right one, your relationship might start out as a friendship. You might hang out casually, in groups, without a tinge of romance. You might not think of them in a sexual way at all. You might make each other laugh, you might text each other all the time, but you might not realize how much you mean to each other for a while. You might need some time for the love to blossom.
When you meet the right person, you might feel differently about them during your first interaction than your second. Your relationship might develop gradually over a period of weeks, months, years. You might slowly grow to love them as more than a friend. You might be pleasantly surprised by each milestone you reach, by how close you become.
When you meet the right person, it might not be in your face obvious. You might not have any idea what the universe has in store for you. You might not know this person is going to be your person, your teammate, your soulmate.
When you meet the right person, your love story might not play out as fast and hard as your favorite romcoms — but there’s nothing wrong with that. In the real world, you aren’t going to know you’ve found the right person the moment you lock eyes. You are going to need some time to get to know each other, to learn about each other, to see whether you make sense together.
Don’t expect the same kind of whirlwind romance you see in the movies. Don’t expect to be able to tell whether someone is meant for you based on first impressions alone. When you meet the right person, you might not be crazy about them at first. You might not be interested in committing at first. You might not even realize you’re into each other at first. You might make the wrong assumptions about their heart — and your own.
When you meet the right person, you might move at a different pace than you expected, but your story is unique. Your story is valuable. You shouldn’t be embarrassed about how long it took the two of you to come to your senses and realize love was right in front of you. You should be proud of yourselves for building a strong friendship, for liking each other as friends as well as partners.
Remember: You don’t have to fall for someone at first sight in order for it to be real love. Sometimes, real love takes time to grow. Sometimes, real love goes unnoticed for a while. Sometimes, real love starts out as something completely different.