Stop acting like someone is your only one when there are other people you’re interested in. Stop giving out false hope. Stop playing games with soft hearts.
Just because someone gives you free reign to hurt them doesn’t mean you should.
You might think it’s harmless to string two people along at once, but the more time you spend with them, the more attached they are going to get to you and the more they are going to ache when you choose one over the other.
You aren’t getting the best of both worlds by stringing two people along. You aren’t cheating the system. You aren’t some suave player. You are only doubling the amount of people you’re hurting. You are only putting people you supposedly care about through pain.
These hearts deserve more than half your interest, half your time, half your attention.
When you find yourself stringing along two people at the same time, you have to ask yourself whether you like them or whether you like the confidence boost they give you, whether you like the attention, whether you like being liked.
Think about it. If you genuinely cared about someone, why would you want to make them compete for you? Why would you want to torture them with new insecurities? Why would you want to put them through the pain of waiting for a text, waiting for a date, waiting for a relationship label?
If you’re having such a hard time choosing between two hearts, maybe neither one of them are right for you. Maybe you should let them go, let them heal, let them move forward without you.
Maybe they deserve better than someone who isn’t sure whether they are worth the trouble. Maybe they deserve someone who genuinely appreciates them. Maybe they deserve someone who takes one look at them and decides they are the one, not someone who takes months to figure it out.
If you’ve been listing out the pros and cons of each person because you’re not sure who you like better, then you shouldn’t be with either person. Stop stringing them along. Stop acting like you have all the time in the world to make a decision about who you want to date because technically you’re still single, technically you’re not cheating on either one of them, technically you have done nothing wrong and they don’t have a ‘right’ to be mad at you.
Just because they’re letting you get away with stringing them along doesn’t mean you should continue doing it. Just because they aren’t complaining doesn’t mean they aren’t hurting. Just because what they don’t know can’t hurt them doesn’t mean what you’re doing is okay.
You have to understand your actions have consequences. Your flirting might be harmless from your side — but that’s not the case from their side.
Stop stringing hearts along because they are more fragile than you think. You are going to break them both before you know it. You might even accidentally end up breaking your own.