1. Do not expect her to give a lengthy paragraph when you keep replying with one-word answers. Mhm, then what, and winking faces are going to kill the conversation. You also have to play a part. You have to contribute as much as she does.
2. If you two are in the middle of sexting, she wants to hear about how attractive you find her. She wants to know you’ve been daydreaming about her naked body. You don’t have to hold yourself back. Hearing about how turned on you are will turn her on.
3. Just because you’re sexting, it doesn’t mean every sentence has to be filled with expletives. You can be dirty — but you can also toss in cute compliments about her eyes. You don’t have to stick to drooling over her chest and ass.
4. Sometimes, the little kinks she brings up while sexting are hints. She is testing the waters to see how you feel about certain sex acts. It’s her sneaky way of bringing up a topic (like bondage or anal) in the hopes you will initiate it in real life.
5. Of course, sometimes, it goes the other way. She might sext you about a certain scenario because she knows it will turn you on to fantasize about it, even though she would never agree to it in real life.
6. Even though you’re probably not thinking straight while sexting her, reread your messages before sending. Typos are a turn-off. You should also make sure you avoid using shorthand. Type out your words. You’re an adult with an education. Act like it.
7. What turns you on is probably not the same as what turns her on. Even though your first instinct might be to mention how badly you want to slip inside her, you might want to start by mentioning how you want to rub her clit and kiss her neck. Just like actual sex, sexting is not supposed to be centered around your pleasure. It’s supposed to be about the both of you.
8. She doesn’t want you to always save sexting for when you are home alone and ready to masturbate. She wants you to use it as a form of foreplay on the days you are planning on seeing her. Send her risky texts throughout the morning to put her in the mood. You can even send them in the evening when you are sitting on opposite ends of a restaurant table.
9. Do not ask her for nudes. She already knows you want to see her naked. If she wants to send photos, she will send them on her own. Don’t make her uncomfortable by begging. Getting pushy will only push her away.
10. Even though you are sexting, it does not mean she is sitting at home, touching herself. She might be snacking on chips, watching her favorite show with a group of friends. Just because she tells you she is wearing a towel and lounging in her empty bedroom does not mean it’s actually the case.